Martin March 13, 2006, 11:30 a.m. (Message 44663)
getting a partner
Before going off on holiday, I wrote that, for the first time, I would find out what it would be like to go unattached to an SCD event. I found a few people I knew and liked, and chatted/danced with some people I'd never met before ... and had a wonderful time. Only once or twice did I not find a partner (though several times, when I approached someone still sitting down, she had already been invited). There were no dance cards tofill in/out (;-) , but there was some tendency for couples to stick together. Some people, having come alone, were often sitting out. It appeared that, when not invited, these people (ladies) dared not invite anyone thelmselves. Recaps were brief and clear, quite sufficient for me to do dances I had not done before (and there were several of these each evening). I had done my homework and looked at the cribs sent out in advance, but with no attempt to memorize them. Conclusions: If you have confidence in your own ability to get through any dance, you can go alone. A slightly pushy lone lady I noticed rarely missed a dance. Another, more pleasant, but somewhat reserved, sat out a lot. Whenever I danced with her she obviously knew what she was doing, but had not the confidence to invite a stranger (just in case she went wrong?), since a large part of the program was unfamiliar. So, if you go alone, do your homework, feel confident, and remember there are probably lots of partners out there hoping you will invite them. Martin, in Grenoble, France.