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  • Volleyballjerry

    Volleyballjerry Oct. 15, 2001, 8:37 p.m. (Message 27896)

    men dancing with men as partners

    The entire discussion of men dancing with men in SCD (with the exception of 
    comments from Ken McFarland) seems to presuppose one of the following:
    A.  that there is an unusual imbalance of genders with men prevailing,
    B.  that the men partnered together have suffered from some snail-paced delay 
    in snapping up partners while women have speedily chosen each other, or
    C.  that the man on the woman's side wishes to present himself with the 
    mental challenge of dancing on the opposite side.
    I truly find that when a woman asks another woman to dance, it often has 
    nothing to do with the gender balance at the event; she simply asks her 
    because she would like the pleasure of her company as a partner.  Though this 
    may have originated historically out of necessity, we have long since reached 
    the point where women ask other women to dance with a comfortableness that is 
    quite voluntary.  This does not generally seem to be the case with men, 
    EXCEPT for those of us who are gay and don't care who knows it.  We are not 
    hesitant to occasionally dance with each other, quite by choice and 
    regardless of the event's gender balance, and in my own (Southern California) 
    San Gabriel Valley Branch (with our events often well attended by members of 
    the neighboring Los Angeles and Orange County Branches), this does not seem 
    (as Ken McFarland has more generally stated) to ruffle (m)any feathers, 
    though one never knows what is being said behind one's back!
    Robb Quint
    SCD teacher, Thousand Oaks, California

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