In a message dated 97-01-13 13:37:06 EST, you write:
>Unfortunately the slap in the face happens all too often. Now when I attend >an out of town event, I try to check with the organizers before I arrive >about the unwritten *local rules,* such as booking ahead, ladies not asking
It's funny to think back. About 10 years ago I went to a Ball in a big
city, that I'd never been to before and where I knew only the 3 people with
whom I'd gone.
I danced 1 dance in the whole evening and swore I'd never go back there. I
was refused so often I seriously wondered if I had broccolli in my teeth or
something! After about the 4th refusal for 1 particular dance I quit, and
sat down with, I must admit, a little bit of an attitude. ( I asked men
and women...noone would dance with me). Of course since then I have gotton
to know a number of these folks at weekends and other events and I am sure if
I went back to that Ball I'd have plenty of partners.... but I'm not going to
chance it. I labeled that branch THE MOST UNFRIENDLY branch in the country,
and they really are not. BUT that was the impression I left with and after
10 years it still bothers me. Having relayed this story to a number of the
teachers and office bearers of the branch they are all astounded and have no
recollection of me being at the event....(there's a surprise) ... The Point
is, those first impressions are SO important. They stick with you for a
long , long time!
If all the locals dance 1 dance in an evening with a new face, that new face
will probavly dance most of the evening! and just maybe come back!
I am getting off the soap box now!
With all this 'free' time on AOL... I feel compelled to use it.