> A teacher from Scotland who was over in Queensland recently was rather > surprised when a woman asked him to dance, and asked if this was usual in > Australia. I have no experience of dancing in other countries. Is this not > always the case? Do women really wait to be asked by men? > I'd be fascinated to read of other dancers' experiences, but as one woman > said, with a shortage of male dancers, some women might wait forever to be > asked!
When I started dancing (in Ottawa, Canada) in 1983, many women did not ask men to
dance. Programs were made with "ladies' choice" dances, often 3 or 4 in a
program. In these dances, often strathspeys, the ladies were supposed to ask the
gentlemen to dance. These later became "people's choice" or "anyone's choice"
(so called at least by some). I cannot remember the last program with these, but
it was probably in the late 1980's or early 19990's. Now, women are expected to
ask men to dance, and most do. I have seen a few that will not, and some of them
do not go to balls, as "no one asked me to dance".
My own class (Osgoode) is almost entirely ladies this year (great good fun if you
are male, by the way!). I have said that when they go up to the city for dances
and socials, that they had better ask the men - or someone else will beat them to
I have found however, it is very hard to teach flirting to a same sex class!
Osgoode Scottish Country Dance Group
Ottawa, Ontario, Canada