> Is "barging in on a ladies' couple" considered impolite elsewhere? In this > area the norm seems to be that 2 men looking for partners can invite a pair > of ladies to split up, the premise being that the ladies would rather be > dancing with men than with each other, I guess!
Oops. At a social event, I'd say the ladies in question have obviously
asked each other to dance. I think it would be about as polite to
`invite' them to split up as it would be to invite a `mixed' couple to
split up. If the ladies would rather be dancing with men *they* can
offer to split up (or ask a man to begin with).
> Men dancing with men are > fairly uncommon here; it is done when needed to fill a set if there aren't > enough ladies, although some guys are uncomfortable doing so (but we also > have a few guys who dance with each other by choice).
Gender proportions being what they are hereabouts, men dancing with men
at social functions are a very uncommon phenomenon. In my class there
are sometimes more men than women, and the way things work out are that
usually some man will volunteer to dance as a woman. If there are
all-female couples in the set and two men left over, sometimes the
ladies will offer to split up and sometimes I may ask them to do so (if
the dance seems easier to teach/understand without the added
complication of women dancing as men and men dancing as women --
teacher's privilege). And sometimes the left-over men are happy to dance
together or sit out. This goes for a class situation -- at a social
event I think the couples should be left as they are.
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