The problem of the perpetual beginner is unfortunately quite widespread. I
find it quite irritating and try not to have to spend the entire evening
dancing with them. I don't, however, think that it is out of any obstinacy
or malicious intent. They may honestly not understand what is wrong, and that
is why talking to them produces no effect. Also, they may be those people
who cannot, under any circumstances, hear a rhythm, which would impact their
One may feel that it is not fair for them to inflict their less-than-stellar
dancing on others. I sometimes, when I have had a dance I like marred by a
perpetual beginner, feel this way. However, when I am less cross, I am of
the opinion that this attitude is that of unbearable snobbery. I am the last
to say that I am not a snob, but it is no more fair for us to dictate who
should dance with us than it is for them, as we sometimes see it, to inflict
their dancing on us.
Then of course, it is always possible that someday it will click for them,
and--Hey presto!--we have no more irritatingly hopeless dancing to deal with
from that quarter.
If they're having fun, one really shouldn't say anything.