Try lateral thinking: take them aside - point out a couple of
"beginners" - tell them you need their help - could they please dance a
couple of easy dances with them - help them through the dances. Maybe,
just maybe this might help - the reason these people might not look at you
could be because they are in such awe of you, and cannot stare directly into
the sun :>) Being the ones in control might bring out the best in them.
>>[Ben:] Ah yest BUT, what do you do with a partner who won't look at you >>(or anyone else for that matter)? I know of at least two people, who I
suspect >>sufferrred some abuse in earlier life, who just look at the floor all the >>time. After several years of saying " hey, smile, look at me, etc." I have >>just about given up in trying to cue one of them, other than verbally. Any >>suggestions? > >We can all probably think of 1 or 2 people who don't behave/respond like >most other dancers we know and who require "special handling". If these are >behaviors you have not been able to change in years of interaction, then it >is unlikely that anybody has a magic cure for you. Whatever you have >already been doing that works is probably the right answer. While it may >seem odd or non-SCD-ish for dancers with years of experience to continually >look at the floor, those people do keep coming to dance and the dance >probably satisfies an important need in their lives. Still, I would not >give up on the "hey, smile, look at me, etc.". Someday you may break >through. Or maybe they believe they ARE doing what you suggest, but are >smiling inside and seeing you through the corners of their eyes. > >Cheers, Oberdan. > >Trans Vector Technologies, Inc, 184 Estaban Drive, Camarillo, CA 93010-1611 >Phone: (805)484-2775, FAX: (805)484-2718, EMail: email@example.com > > > >