Dealing with mistakes/Helping

Darla Granberry

Message 19194 · 1 Nov 1999 16:57:45 · Fixed-width font · Whole thread

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My 16 y.o. son had a similar experience recently with Peat Fire Flame at
the Houston Ball.
He was in a bottom set and the group admitted before the first chord that
they didn't really know it.
He spent the entire 8 x thru first guiding them, then allowing them to sort
themselves out and starting again.
When the dance was over and several apologized for messing it up, he
smiled, shrugged and said -look, it's a Drewy dance- which was immediately
answered with smiles and groans. Needless to say I was very proud of the
way he handled it.

Darla Granberry
Lubbock, TX

At 12:16 AM 10/30/99 -0700, you wrote:
>Ellie's story about trying to get a set through Irish Rover reminded me of a
>similar situation long ago. It was at the welcome dance during my husband's
>and my very first workshop. It was early in the evening and I was very
>nervous, sure I would ruin everything for everyone if I made a mistake, but
>wanting very much to dance. ( I had studied the dances, but as you all
>know, that doesn't always mean success). I mentioned that I would
>appreciate a little help if I got stuck. A very kind man from Chicago (who
>shall remain nameless) smiled and said not to worry. The problem was that
>everyone else in the set acknowledged that they "might need a little help".
>To make a long story short, the poor man spent his entire dance getting us
>all through the dance. We made it, just barely, and all thanked him
>profusely. He smiled, acted as if it was not problem, and then quickly
>disappeared to the other end of the room. I'm sure he felt as though he had
>been through a whole workshop by then, but you know, his patience and
>attitude was one of the things I felt most important about that workshop.
>If this was the kind of people that did Scottish Dancing, then I wanted to
>keep at it and learn to do it well.
>I'm not sure this quite fits the topic, but I've never forgotten it or him,
>and I mentioned it to him some years later. Actually, I think he
>remembered it, and seemed gratified to know the impression he made.
>Whenever I see someone struggling with a dance, I think of that night and
>the help I received. I still appreciate help that is given kindly, and try
>to give help in the same way.
>Donna
>
>Ellie Briscoe wrote:
>
>> Big mistake in "helping:" I mistakenly tried to "get a set of dancers
>> through" Irish Rover. I was in the last set to form. "Ellie will help us
>> through this!" ....................>
>
>
>--
>Jim and Donna Ferguson <xxxxxxx@xxxxxxx.xxx>
>
>

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