Ellie's story about trying to get a set through Irish Rover reminded me of a
similar situation long ago. It was at the welcome dance during my husband's
and my very first workshop. It was early in the evening and I was very
nervous, sure I would ruin everything for everyone if I made a mistake, but
wanting very much to dance. ( I had studied the dances, but as you all
know, that doesn't always mean success). I mentioned that I would
appreciate a little help if I got stuck. A very kind man from Chicago (who
shall remain nameless) smiled and said not to worry. The problem was that
everyone else in the set acknowledged that they "might need a little help".
To make a long story short, the poor man spent his entire dance getting us
all through the dance. We made it, just barely, and all thanked him
profusely. He smiled, acted as if it was not problem, and then quickly
disappeared to the other end of the room. I'm sure he felt as though he had
been through a whole workshop by then, but you know, his patience and
attitude was one of the things I felt most important about that workshop.
If this was the kind of people that did Scottish Dancing, then I wanted to
keep at it and learn to do it well.
I'm not sure this quite fits the topic, but I've never forgotten it or him,
and I mentioned it to him some years later. Actually, I think he
remembered it, and seemed gratified to know the impression he made.
Whenever I see someone struggling with a dance, I think of that night and
the help I received. I still appreciate help that is given kindly, and try
to give help in the same way.
Ellie Briscoe wrote:
> Big mistake in "helping:" I mistakenly tried to "get a set of dancers > through" Irish Rover. I was in the last set to form. "Ellie will help us > through this!" ....................>