If "It's only dancing, for crying out loud," then why are folks so insistent
on correcting unimportant nuances during social dancing? That was my point.
I apologize for misleading with my choice of words:
- by "giving permission to speak" I meant that I've asked for help so should
not be upset to get it.
- by "non-judgemental" I meant that telling someone "Reel" is rather
different than implying "Reel, Dummy!" Perhaps I should have described this
attitude as gently providing help, rather than overtly criticizing.
- by "not embarassing" I meant that a quiet word to the person who needs to
hear it is far better than shouting it out so everyone in the set and those
in the next set are aware help is being provided. I think those on the list
that really detest verbal cues are referring to the latter kind.
It does appear that we adults are more able to receive feedback when it is
not meant (or perceived) to be hurtful. If you disagree with this, please
send me email privately; I'd like to keep a list!