Dealing with mistakes

Marilynn Knight

Message 19105 · 27 Oct 1999 22:09:04 · Fixed-width font · Whole thread

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I am so happy you asked, Bruce, what help we do/do not like!!! I
despise it when someone speaks advice to me during a dance. I love eye
contact and, in fact, depend on it. I remember some moments when I
averted mistakes thanks to unspoken eye contact/body language, one,
especially, when a particular fine dancer in our region, an engineer by
profession, gave me friendly, strong eye contact that directed me to his
extended toe which indicated that the reel for three was on the
diagonal. It was my saving moment. No one else in the set noticed, but
I gratefully continued the dance in sheer enjoyment. I knew I had been
saved a screw-up. This particular dancer & I had not, and have not, ever
been partners, in my memory. But he clearly knew my often distracted
state was a potential mini-land mine. But the team managed to avoid
it.... I hadn't known the dance before and didn't remember it after,
save for that indelible moment, testimony to the power of eye contact.

I also despise it when someone decides to push/pull another dancer,
especially those who feel free to grab the elbow when in a
couple-turn....

I only want/need the help of one person at a time.... My students are
NOT impressed by teachers who coach, either in the set or on the
sidelines..

I wonder about those who are quick to give unasked-for verbal help. I
suspect it is more to draw attention to themselves and how superior they
are...

Amen!!!

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