"The reasons I have always been attracted to SCD is that it has always
allowed me (an introvert) the pleasure of holding hands with someone,
of smiling at her/him and of not being so closely guarded about
While I don't believe that the social quality should overrule the
concern for footwork and phrasing and other components of the art
form (this is not an either/or situation), the ultimate delight for
me is to be able to touch someone, however fleetingly, with kindness
I think this is why there are times in my life when I do SCD several times a
week, and other times when it is only a few times a year. I also suspect it
impacts on why many groups keep few new comers and have few young people.
Though it is admittedly a generalization, I have found that single younger
people are more likely to make eye contact and smile while dancing with a
strange new single man (or woman) than are older married people. I don't
know whether that is because some older married people are worried about
their spouse's reaction or whether they have simply foregotten that dancing
is supposed to be about fun and flirting, not calisthenics and acrobatics.
Maybe if more teachers and senior dancers emphazised the points Etienne
makes rather than that dance is good exercise (which it's not for most young
people) or a chance to show off (which it's not for beginners).