>>1) Find out if there is any reason for the "intentness" - they could have
bad eyesight :) >>2) Dance with them anyway - that's what you / they are there for - you
don't have to marry the guy / woman.
No, this particular creep doesn't have bad eyesight. He has a permanent
scowl and an iron will, with the biceps to enforce it, combined with a lack
of dance skill to go with his years of experience. And, really, an air of
danger -- an explosion about to happen if he doesn't get his way. He is not
fun; he really is creepy and best avoided.
Next time Celia and I (and he) are at the same contra dance, I'll get her
to confirm. Remember, a contra dance lasts ten to thirty minutes, depending
on the length of the line. It's not a four-minute reel. No, it's not a
marriage, but it could be 1/4 of your dancing evening if you get there late
and the hall is crowded. If you dance with him once, he'll keep asking.
Like, for the next dance -- he's been known to monopolize a new woman's
evening, because no one told her it was okay to say no to a second dance.
Then she won't come back. And lest you think I don't pay my dues, I always
-- _always_ -- ask one or more beginner to dance.