I find (for once) that I am in partial agreement with Ian Price that the
use of briefings lessens that sense of occasion which differentiates a
formal ball (a once a year, decade, lifetime event) from a monthly social.
Similarly, turning up in trainers and a T-shirt would do so, also. One of
the recent mails laid out a sliding scale of briefing v. occasion which I
agreed with totally.
Elitism - these days any activity which demands both some aptitude and
considerable application will be regarded as elitist. So what ? Excellence
is always elitist since not everyone can be excellent. As long as _anyone_
willing to make the minimum necessary application is welcome then all is
well. I suspect that the definition of minimum is what separates the
warring parties in this case. I also suspect that the minimum varies with
Snobbery - should have no place in modern life.
I don't see that making the necessary effort in dress, deportment,
preparation, personal cleanliness (:, blah, blah, blah to make a ball an
occasion is either elitist or snobbish, it's simple courtesy to the other
> In this sense, the practice of "formality" is snobbish and elitist.